Post by Manvinder Adhana on Nov 11, 2005 19:56:18 GMT -5
They've seen Nisha Sharma, a girl in their neighbourhood in Noida, send back her groom and his family from the wedding because they wanted dowry; they've seen a groom die accidentally in some celebratory(ofcourse that was a gurjar wedding) shooting. Now Gujjars in the area have announced a ban on dowry and ostentatious weddings.
On Sunday, leaders from over a hundred Gujjar villages (about 20,000 families) gathered in a Maha Panchayat and announced they would boycott anyone who violated their directives and offered or accepted a dowry. They also said no firearms, liquor, bands or DJs would now be allowed at Gujjar weddings.
Gujjar leaders have set up a committee under former Rajya Sabha member and Kisan leader Ramchandra Vikal to educate people and eradicate dowry from their community. Other members of the committee include UP Minister for Prisons Ved Ram Bhatti and former MLAs Narendra Bhatti and Samir Bhatti.
At the meeting, Gujjar Samaj leaders felt dowry had lately become an even greater menace for them. Gujjars had prospered on the compensation they got for their land in Noida and Greater Noida and weddings had become ostentatious occasions to exhibit their newly-acquired wealth.
Vikal said, "Even dowries worth lakhs do not guarantee the safety of women. They are still tortured and forced to commit suicide, and greedy people do not hesitate to burn or beat a bride to death. The more you give, the greedier they become."
Community leaders said that instead of saving up for dowries, parents should educate their daughters and ensure they plan a career and are financially independent. Also, mass, dowryless weddings should be organised, they said.
Though members of the community welcomed their leaders' directives, several were doubtful about their implementation. It was up to the affluent members to stop the dowry trend, they felt.
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Marriage guidelines
Can Do
At engagement: Re 1, silver or gold coin; at Bhaat: Rs 101-5,100; at Vidai: Rs 101
Can't Do
Display dowry items at wedding; bands, DJs, firearms, liquor, 'donations'
I have got this acticle from www.hvk.org/articles/0603/75.html
Dowry is one of major problem in gurjar community.
People spends lot of money in marriages specaily the people who got the money from governement in compansation of land acquiring.These people don't understand the value of hard earn money and waste their money in marraiges rather than providing good education to their children.
What do you reckon?Is this ban on dowry really changing the situation of the dowry sytem in gurjars community.
please post your views.Your views are highly appreciated..
thanks
manvinder adhana
On Sunday, leaders from over a hundred Gujjar villages (about 20,000 families) gathered in a Maha Panchayat and announced they would boycott anyone who violated their directives and offered or accepted a dowry. They also said no firearms, liquor, bands or DJs would now be allowed at Gujjar weddings.
Gujjar leaders have set up a committee under former Rajya Sabha member and Kisan leader Ramchandra Vikal to educate people and eradicate dowry from their community. Other members of the committee include UP Minister for Prisons Ved Ram Bhatti and former MLAs Narendra Bhatti and Samir Bhatti.
At the meeting, Gujjar Samaj leaders felt dowry had lately become an even greater menace for them. Gujjars had prospered on the compensation they got for their land in Noida and Greater Noida and weddings had become ostentatious occasions to exhibit their newly-acquired wealth.
Vikal said, "Even dowries worth lakhs do not guarantee the safety of women. They are still tortured and forced to commit suicide, and greedy people do not hesitate to burn or beat a bride to death. The more you give, the greedier they become."
Community leaders said that instead of saving up for dowries, parents should educate their daughters and ensure they plan a career and are financially independent. Also, mass, dowryless weddings should be organised, they said.
Though members of the community welcomed their leaders' directives, several were doubtful about their implementation. It was up to the affluent members to stop the dowry trend, they felt.
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Marriage guidelines
Can Do
At engagement: Re 1, silver or gold coin; at Bhaat: Rs 101-5,100; at Vidai: Rs 101
Can't Do
Display dowry items at wedding; bands, DJs, firearms, liquor, 'donations'
I have got this acticle from www.hvk.org/articles/0603/75.html
Dowry is one of major problem in gurjar community.
People spends lot of money in marriages specaily the people who got the money from governement in compansation of land acquiring.These people don't understand the value of hard earn money and waste their money in marraiges rather than providing good education to their children.
What do you reckon?Is this ban on dowry really changing the situation of the dowry sytem in gurjars community.
please post your views.Your views are highly appreciated..
thanks
manvinder adhana
